One of the most difficult issues with mental health is to know when to offer help and when not to.
Great frustration comes to pass often, as individuals who love and care about a person who is struggling with mental health issues or addictions, refuse the help they offer or no matter what a person tries nothing seems to help.
If you are dealing with a person who needs help but either refuses to get help or you are at a lost at what to try here are a few suggestions.
1) If you are working harder than the person who needs help stop. This is not your issue it is their issues and they need to decide if they want to change.
2) Let a person hit rock bottom sometimes is the only option to going up.
3) Give a copy of my book Shell Cracking to the person who needs help. It is a great way to allow a person to see what counseling could be like and to decided if such a process is right for them.
4) Let the person who needs the help lead out. This can be done by asking open ended questions such as: Do you think you need help? What type of help do you think you need? What are you willing to do to get help?
Remember it is ok to ask for help as the person who is seeking to help a loved one who is emotionally hurting or facing addictions. If you are not filling back up your bucket faster than the person you care about is emptying it you could find yourself very lost and confused.
Counseling works when the timing is right, the right processes is applied, and the right counselor is involved.
Counseling is very much relationship based so make sure as you visit with a counselor find the right one for you.